A Pokey "Ex" Could End Up in The "Pokey" If They Refuse To Bring Your Kids Back On Time

Last week's column outlined what to do if your "ex"parent) has occurred because the abduction was
doesn't return your children at the time identified in yourintentional, it was without good cause, and it is in
court order. In many cases, these delays are neitherviolation of a valid court order. Communicate these
intentional nor malicious, but the product of poor timethree elements and, then, it seems to me that you
management. However, some ex-mates remain angryhave reported a crime that the police "have a duty to
long after the divorce, venting their displeasure atinvestigate". If the police still won't respond, ask for a
every opportunity, and the weekly "hand-off" is anpolice report recording that you made the complaint,
easy venue for making your life miserable.but be prepared that they may say "it's not ready yet."
As pointed out last week, you have a remedy if your2. Then, go to the Prosecuting Attorney in the county
"ex" willfully violates the schedule in your court order.where the divorce was granted. Ask that they issue a
Take your case to the police. It is a felony violation offelony warrant for your "ex" for child abduction by a
Section 565.156 of the Missouri Revised Statuesparent. Bring your court-ordered schedule, and the
punishable by up to four years in the pokey.police report of your complaint, assuming you received
Involving the police usually solves the problem, if theone. In all likelihood, the prosecutor will respond with a
police will intervene on your behalf. Sometimes, though,warrant directing that your "ex" be arrested. But, if
they are reluctant to step into what they see as anot…
squabble between private parties, not realizing that3. You will need to retain an attorney who should file a
their reluctance emboldens the recalcitrant spouse towrit of  "habeas corpus" (Latin for "produce the
push the envelope further. Just recently, a motherbody") in the county where the divorce was granted. It
asked me what she should do about her formerwill be served to your former spouse and direct him
spouse who hasn't returned her children sinceher to deliver the children by a specific deadline. If that
Christmas…almost four months earlier! She has gonedoesn't occur, take the writ to the police where your
to the police, but they refused to get involved, saying it"ex" resides and they are required to enforce the writ
was a "private matter".and recover your children.
"The police have a legal duty to investigate a crime",In addition, your lawyer should file a "contempt motion"
says Rob Livergood, Assistant Prosecuting Attorneywith the Family Court for failure to comply with the
for St. Louis County, but the police also "have thecourt-ordered schedule. If your "ex" is found to be "in
discretion to decide if a crime has been committed". Ifcontempt", the penalty is jail time until the children are
the first officer, after reviewing your court-orderedreturned, plus paying your legal fees.
schedule, refuses to get involved, here is how toAs prosecutor Livergood says, most problems are
proceed:resolved with the first visit to the police, but it's nice to
1. Immediately ask for a supervisor and take your caseknow you have options for dealing with an ex-mate
up the chain of command, all the way to the chief ifthat persistently brings your kids back late just to be
necessary. Make sure they know that there is gooddifficult.
reason to believe that a crime (child abduction by a