Child Safety - How to Talk With Your Kids About the Tough Stuff

Right now, I am sitting with my youngest son while heyou begin these conversations when they are young, it
falls asleep because he was scared to be alone.becomes a natural thing to talk about, much like not
Sometimes he is my best inspiration because as goodtouching a hot stove; it warns them without scaring
as I feel about the work I do in child safety, it is timesthem.
like this when I am just a mom with a scared little boyThere are some excellent resources available to
who I want to protect from the dangers of the world.assist you in teaching your children about personal
Apparently, he had walked through the living roomsafety; you can use books, videos, participate in group
where his older brother was watching a police showdiscussions or role-playing, just to name a few. I used a
and heard a reference of an abducted child. When Icouple different methods in teaching my boys; we
was tucking him into bed, he called me Mommy (I amwatched videos together (always preview videos
usually just Mom now), and said that he did not wantbefore showing them to your children, some have
to be stolen. As the lump rose in my throat, giving himsections specifically for parents that may frighten
a hug and telling him that I was there to protect himchildren) and we would read different books at
was all I could do and was what he needed to falldifferent stages as they grew up. They wanted to
asleep.read the books and watch the videos repeatedly;
One of the hardest parts when dealing with the topictalking about it empowered them and gave them a
of lost and abducted children is that to really protectsense of security to feel that they have some control
your kids you have to talk to them and teach themin uncomfortable situations.
what they need to do and what to be aware of toI encourage you as a parent to be proactive in the
keep safe. I know as a Mom of three, bringing up thetopic of personal safety, whether you talk about child
subject of what if with my own kids was hard everyabduction, getting lost in the mall, cyber safety or being
time because I did not want to scare them, but I alsobullied at school. Whatever the subject, keep the lines
knew that if I did not talk about it, they would not learnof conversation open and be prepared to talk with
what to do.your children when they bring up the subject, or use
It is imperative that you begin talking with your kidsthe methods above to get the conversation going and
when they are very young, starting as toddlers andlet them know that you will always be there when
you must keep enforcing the subject of safety, asthey have concerns or fears.
they get older. The degree of information is differentThere will always be moments, like the one my son
at every age but they must begin to think abouthad tonight, when fear overwhelms them a bit, but
personal safety when they are young. Children can getbeing there for your child during these moments and
this information through various sources and have itreassuring them that you are watching over them will
delivered to them in non-threatening, empoweringcalm their fears and give them the security they need
ways so they feel confident and safe in the world. Iffor a good nights sleep.