Parent-Teacher Conferences - The Thunderdome of Child-Rearing

The start of a new school year: Stacks of notebooksfear of lemurs or lack of basic survival skills now will
full of clean sheets of paper, the smell of freshlysave you a night spent camping with sugared-up
sharpened pencils, the feel of new wool sweaters and10-year-olds who who insisted they could handle a real
the pervasive sense that anything is possible.ghost story. Cowards.
Even when you're no longer a kid, it's nearly impossible3. Do show up on time. Right when punctuality matters,
to escape the idea that a fresh start is available to allsomething comes up. Your fantasy football draft goes
in the autumn. But, imminent parent-teacherinto overtime. You're hitting under par for the first time
conferences can bring you down. Here's how toall season and your buddies want to do the back nine.
handle the first meeting with your kid's new teach in aIt doesn't matter - making your kid's teacher wait is just
way that won't sabotage your child's academic future,bad form. Unless you're in the zone.
embarrass your son or daughter or land you in the dog4. Insist that C students rule the world. So far, you
house.made it through high school, college and the work
1. Don't threaten violence. When someone criticizesplace without ever really applying yourself. There's no
your child, scanning the room for a makeshift spearreason your son or daughter can't do the same. If your
while proclaiming that your great-grandfather was akid's teacher keeps harping on the merits of hard work
Samurai is an understandable gut reaction. But wait.and perseverance, clue her into the importance of
Stop. Put down the laser pointer and remember thatconnections and shifting blame.
your son or daughter will be spending all day in the5. Let your wife do the talking. Show up, look
room with this person until June. Don't let things comepresentable and don't speak. She's got this one.
to blows until January, at the earliest.Everyone dreads parent-teacher conferences, but the
2. Don't get suckered into volunteering. You're on themeetings offer an opportunity to connect with the
spot, we get it. That's why it's imperative to come upperson who's shaping your child's malleable young
with excuses before heading into the conference. It'smind. If you don't show up, the teacher could turn them
inevitable that the teacher will ask if you're available toagainst you. Plus, maybe you can talk you wife into
chaperone a field trip to the local zoo or show the kidsbuying you some back-to-school clothes.
how to build a campfire. Admitting to your irrational