Teach Street Smarts Without Making Your Child Fearful

Have you ever experienced the absolute horror whenput, you will find them.
you are in a store and you lost your child? Or, your· If your child is feeling frightened, teach them
child lost you? Terror runs straight through your entiresafety check points. For example: if they are walking
being! The what if's start flowing and, although we tryhome from school and begin to feel unsafe, show
not to, most of us fear the worst... Our child could havethem safe neighbors that they can run to. If you are in
been stolen!a store and someone is "bugging" them, show them
The majority of the time our fears are quickly calmedwhere the registers are.
by the sudden appearance or discovery of our child.· Remind them that most adults are wonderful
But, what if...people. Adults will normally help a child at any given
Every family fears a stranger taking your child. We allmoment. However, if an adult wants to take them
know that this is rare and the exception but it doessomewhere without your permission or touches in a
happen. If even one child is taken in a lifetime, that is"yucky" way, tell your children that those adults may
one too many.be unsafe and to get away quickly. As the parent, you
Yet, we also fear teaching our children to be scared towill figure out the adult decisions to make after it
death of every stranger they meet.happens. You simply want your child to get away.
Is there a happy medium?· Assist your children in being polite to
Child development will determine the steps to take. Forstrangers. There are many incredible people for them
example, if your child is very young, the chances ofto meet in their lives. However, if a stranger tries to
them being anyway other than your arms, is unlikely.give them anything, touch them or encourage them to
But, your nine year old is prime for coming into contactgo with them, get away from that stranger and tell an
with strangers.adult.
We want our children to be safe at all times but we· Alert children to drivers asking directions.
also don't want them to avoid strangers altogether.Adults should only ask other adults for directions (if, for
Therefore, as a family, have a continued dialogexample, your child is playing outside.) If a driver tries to
regarding stranger danger. As the child gets older,ask directions or has something exciting in the car for
modify and add on to your conversations.the child to see, tell the child to run!
Parenting TipsParenting is the most all encompassing component of
· Always carry a recent photoyour life. It is a phenomenal responsibility. More than
· When you are in large crowds, dress youranything else in the world, we want to keep our
children in bright clotheschildren and family safe. But, we also want our children
· Tell your children to yell! If someone is tryingto be open to meeting new people. If we teach them
to take your child, teach them to scream, "This is notsafety and empowerment, as their child development
my parent!"stages emerge, they will feel comfortable with the
· Make a rule about accidental separation. Tellsafety precautions you have taught them.
your child that if you get separated, they are to stay