What Happens to the Children After a Marriage Ends

A divorce is a painful process for all those involved,reached, and then the child custody case would then
and is especially agonizing when one adds abe presented before a court of law which will make
long-drawn-out battle for child custody or financialthe decision on behalf of the family. Visitation rights and
settlements to the mix. Placing children in the center ofchild custody cases a determined based upon the
a battle between their parents is putting unduefollowing criteria:
emotional stress on the children and often times have· A settlement reached between the parents
the children thinking the 'war' between their parents ison their own: if this can be accomplished, an unofficial
their fault.meeting is set between the two parents and their
Before a couple legally separates, it is paramount for arespective lawyer who help to guide them in this
couple to sit down and discuss, as civilized as possible,delicate and sometimes painful procedure. An
the arrangement for custody. In order to make anout-of-court settlement is called for if a conclusion is
informed decision, one would be wise to educatereached without having to take the case to court. This
themselves to the ways of child custody issuesprocess would use an intercession or the use of laws
before jumping into such a life altering decision.related to collaboration.
Some of the basics are that 'Child Custody' is often· Court determined verdict: if a separation is
known as 'Guardianship' and both are considered legalespecially disagreeable between the two parents, then
jargon. These terms suggest a sense of realistic andthe couple usually is unable to reach a conclusion
lawful bonding between parents and their children inabout custom with out the assistance of a third party.
which the parents are obligated to care for the minorSometimes an acrimonious divorce often involves
children and are charged with making all the importantviolent disagreements about custody of minor children
decisions on those children's behalf.and visitation. In these situations, the court would be the
All over the world, The United nations Convention onideal place in which a final decision - for the benefit of
the Rights of the Child have been approved in severalthe child or children - could be made.
different countries with more emphasis being placedGenerally, in court custody battles, exclusive rights to
on the concepts of 'residence' and 'contact', whichthe children are awarded to the mother. If the children
constitutes the model of 'visitation' in the United States.or very young or minor, this is quite strictly adhered to,
This is a discrepancy from the former tradition ofnevertheless, in custody battles involving unmarried
dwelling on the concepts of 'custody' and 'access'. Incouples, guardianship is also awarded to the mother. A
legal term and otherwise, a child may 'reside' or be infather of the children could contest the mother having
'contact' with one of its parents, rather than a parentcustody by appealing the decision, but the ruling is
having its 'custody' or 'access' to it. "Parentoften not in his favor, especially if the mother has
Responsibility' is what this newly developedimpeccable parenting skills and can prove them.
international categorizations are falling under.Once in a while, people who are not the child's actual
A child's well-being and best interest must beparents sometimes seek guardianship, these people
considered before granting custody of the child toare generally a relative or intimate friend of the family.
either parent in a divorce case where the couples areGrandparents, aunts and close friends are the most
fighting over the rights to custody. Thelikely to seek custody of children in custody battles
abovementioned are used liberally in the decisionwhen the parents might be seen as unfit. Although, the
making process.court is usually very strict in dealing with such
Lawyers are usually the ones who help couples inprocedures and weights all sides with the utmost care
determining the custody rights of their children betweenbecause if the parents' incapacity as the best guardian
themselves; however, if a couple is unable to come tois proved then guardianship may be given to one of
an amicable conclusion where no agreement can bethe other claimants in the case.