What to Do If Your Spouse Runs Away With Your Kids

an't believe it's happened, but it has. Your spouse has- Contact Your Local Police: Immediately contact your
ran away with your kids and you have absolutely nolocal police department and tell them your child/children
idea where they are, or when, or if, they're everare missing and you need to file a report, and then be
coming back. While your first instinct, naturally, will be tosure to record the name and badge number of any
panic, it's important to keep a clear head whileofficers you deal with. Hopefully, you will have already
contacting the right people and staying calm andhad your children fingerprinted before and they will
organized, as in most all cases, a parent will not harmhave a record of that on file to refer to.
their own child.If your children are under the age of 17, the police will
First, gather as many family members and friends asissue an AMBER Alert, which is sent out all across the
you have for support, and for help, as there mostcountry, usually on a local level first, alerting both
certainly may be times when you aren't up to talking orprivate citizens and other law enforcement officials
rehashing the same details over and over again. You'llthat a child is missing via both television and radio. If
also need help manning the phones, taking care of theyou or the police feel your spouse has crossed either
house, and getting the word spread quickly, callingstate or international lines, the FBI (Federal Bureau of
other people who may be able to help, and putting upInvestigations) may also need to be involved to help
flyers to alert everyone in the neighborhood orwith the case.
wherever you suspect they may be heading.- Missing Children's Organizations: Having the support
- What You Will Need: You will want to have anyof as many organizations who specialize in kidnappings
court orders, custody papers or official paperworkand missing children is so important. Contact the
related to your divorce or the children. Also, be sure toNational Center for Missing and Exploited Children
have a recent photo of your child, two if possible, one(NCMEC) toll-free at 1-800-THE-LOST as well as Child
full length and the other just a face-shot, perhaps aFind at 1-800-I-AM-LOST.
school picture, to give to the authorities. Plan onYou may also want to use a notebook and folder to
needing several copies of these pictures to hand outkeep all of the information you've gathered in one
to both the police and those who are helping with theplace and readily accessible should you need to refer
search.to something. It also helps to keep a chronological
When you contact the police, they will also want a fullrecord of events as they happen because you won't
description including weight, height, what they maybe able to rely on your memory during such a stressful
have been wearing, hair and eye color, and if theytime.
have any scars or distinguishing marks.