| With The Counter Part of Positive Emotions? | | | | emotion). But, then the negative emotions set in when |
| Rather than trying to develop a thick emotional skin | | | | you aren't certain how to deliver an opening of your |
| toward beating off fear; a more effective (and | | | | presentation to your prospective employer; you'll most |
| emotionally healthy) approach is to seek an | | | | likely experience fearfulness. Not being able to handle |
| understanding why positive emotions are eaten into by | | | | specific objections from your prospective employer |
| fear. | | | | may cause you to retreat from moving through the |
| Our imaginations often and easily amplify our fears | | | | interview successfully. These negative emotions, many |
| and can spring up from an immediate stimulus. | | | | times originate from a simple lack of preparation, |
| A young mother is excited and displays strong positive | | | | knowledge and experience. |
| emotions about her young daughter attending her first | | | | Overcoming rational negative emotion is to plan, |
| day in kindergarten. Once the young child has been | | | | prepare and practice every step of the interview |
| dropped off, and is out of sight, the mother’s | | | | process. Including knowing as much about your |
| excitement and positive emotions begin to erode. | | | | prospective employer objectives and potential |
| Feeling of worries and concerns about her child rain | | | | objections so that there is absolutely no area where |
| down on her like a cloud burst opening up in the sky. | | | | you feel uncertain. |
| The imagination begins to conjure up horrific thoughts | | | | Irrational negative emotions are the most damaging |
| and pictures that we are exposed too most often by | | | | when developed into clusters such as: |
| the media and personal life events. The visual image of | | | | · Fear of rejection |
| a place or surrounding sounds can bring on an | | | | · Fear of self-promotion |
| amplification of negative emotion that seems to spring | | | | · Fear of the unknown |
| up out of nowhere. In the case of the mother, after | | | | · Fear of authority |
| returning home, can have a negative emotion erupt | | | | · Fear of change |
| upon hearing on television the news of a child that was | | | | · Fear of being foolish |
| kidnap that morning. | | | | · Fear of being harmed |
| Its commonplace to find that for every positive | | | | · And a host of others |
| emotion there is a negative counter part. The | | | | Irrational negative emotions are inner emotions that |
| difference between what may be a normal day and a | | | | have little rational and require a different approach to |
| bad day is due to the emotional causes in our life. | | | | resolving. |
| Fear and its relentless brother, anxiety, is the core to | | | | However, don't blame your feelings when the emotions |
| emotional disorder. Fear and anxiety bring about | | | | of fear start to bubble up inside you. Your feelings are |
| ongoing problems because the conditions that create | | | | the symptoms of your problem. The real perpetrator is |
| them are ongoing. | | | | in your behavior or mismanaged emotional energy. |
| The question we all face is how we can cope with | | | | What is most important is that you consciously |
| negative emotions if we can’t control all the | | | | recognize the fear when it occurs. Then seek to |
| conditions around us. | | | | understand its root cause. |
| Perhaps the best way is differentiating between | | | | That awareness alone will often minimize the fear and |
| rational negative emotions and irrational negative | | | | will also help you determine the most effective way to |
| emotions: Rational negative emotion is based on an | | | | approach your problem. Unfortunately we are stuck |
| objective understating of a situation and is normal. | | | | with the negative counter part of positive emotion. The |
| You have been selected for an interview by a new | | | | best we can do is to learn how to manage emotional |
| employer (your excitement brings about a positive | | | | energy more effectively. |